Showing posts with label am aflat. Show all posts
Showing posts with label am aflat. Show all posts

02 April 2010

coordonate.

Eu mereu cand incep ceva, I'm beginning with the end in mind. Tre' sa stiu cum se termina...daca se termina.

Nu incep ceva serios cu cineva fara sa stiu sigur ca sfarsitul nu e urat.
Nu mi-ar conveni deloc.


Pana una-alta, sa traim fara griji!

11 January 2010

exprimare

e greu sa exprimi ce vrei sa zici, mai ales daca te adresezi unui "public"
in online, nu ti se aude accentul, gandul, balbaiala.

20 December 2009

theories about conforming

1. Cu cat sunt mai multi oameni in jur cand ai nevoie de ajutor, cu atat scad sansele sa fii ajutat.

2. Un angajament luat in public devine mai greu de incalcat

3. Ne purtam mai frumos cand stim ca suntem supravegheati

4. Cand nu stim ce sa facem, de obicei ii copiem pe ceilalti

5. In foarte multe cazuri, majoritatea nu suntem de acord cu regulile stabilite, dar nimeni nu obiecteaza pe fata

6. Suntem politicosi sau nepoliticosi in functie de cat de mult ne pasa

7. Ne afecteaza felul in care suntem vazuti de ceilalti si ne purtam in consecinta

8. Daca suntem in minoritate de cele mai multe ori ne tinem gura

9. Felul in care ne comportam depinde de numarul celor care se uita


...de:
Here are academic theories about how we seek to conform with others.

* Acquiescence Effect: We answer more in the positive than negative.
* Bystander Effect: the more bystanders, the less likely it is one will help.
* Consistency Theory: we seek the comfort of internal alignment.
* Commitment: we feel obliged to complete a public commitment.
* Communication Accommodation Theory: we morph to be like others.
* Epistemological Weighting Hypothesis: conformance depends on how closely our norms match group norms.
* Group Locomotion Hypothesis: members are motivated to achieve group goals.
* Groupthink: maintenance of group cohesion becomes all-important.
* Impression Management: we behave well when we are being watched.
* Informational Social Influence: when we don't know what to do, we copy others.
* Just-world phenomenon: Good and bad will be rewarded and punished.
* Normative Social Influence: basic group need forces us to conform.
* Pluralistic Ignorance: sometimes most people disagree with a group norm, but nobody speaks out.
* Politeness Theory: we act politely or rudely depending on whether we care.
* Reciprocity Norm: we need to return another's favor.
* Roles: we conform with shared expectations of behavior.
* Self-Fulfilling Prophecy: acting how we are treated.
* Self-Monitoring Behavior: we are affected by how others see us.
* Social Desirability Bias: we follow social rules when we are watched.
* Social Impact Theory: how we behave depends on how many, etc. are watching.
* Social Influence: How we are strongly influenced by others.
* Social Learning Theory: we learn much by watching others, thinking, then trying it out.
* Social Norms: groups have rules that must be followed.
* Spiral of Silence Theory: we keep quiet if we are in the minority (and vice versa).

25 February 2009

cum e sa..

sa stii ca poti si sa nu ti se dea sansa?

dar cum e sa te vezi pe tine in varianta masculina si sa ti se faca greatza?? de toate reactiile, de previzibilitate, de fapte si idei, de gesturi de bunatate...
unica reactie e sa te indepartezi si sa ramai intr-o contemplatie majora si idioata cum ca "frate, ce om bun si de fapt, enervant!"

Ce scarba...

13 February 2009

asteptarea

incerc ca maschez nerabdarea cu o plimbare, muzica, mancare, ordine...
de fapt, e tare simplu. iar am de invatat si de exersat.



ma testez pe ora ce trece.ma observ si imi dau seama ca pot.

09 February 2009

drept international

"diferitele popoare trebuie sa isi faca unul altuia in timp de pace cat mai mult bine, iar in razboi cat mai putin rau cu putina"

18 January 2009

innocence

The state of innocence has less to do with age than attitude; innocence springs from a heart that remains open to joy and wonder.

16 January 2009

cica

-am chef sa imi bat joc si sa pozez in seducatoarea inadordabila, fara sa par falsa, caci imaginea asta ma prinde perfect.
-nu vreau sa ma apropii de nimeni
-investesc in cariera
-la jumatea lui ianuarie o sa fiu in mijlocul familiei
-o sa am o reusita profesionala de toata frumusetea

08 January 2009

Men's health - Lucruri care iti aduc succesul zilnic si saptamanal

- Leag-o!Invata sa te impui. 74%dintre femei spun ca le place violenta moderata

- Spune "noi" nu "eu" -sugereaza compromisul

- Alege-ti bataliile. Alege 3-4 sarcini, iar restul lasa-le pe dupa-amiaza. Daca ai prea multe optiuni, nu vei reusi sa te concentrezi pe nici una.

06 January 2009

Robert Frost

Robert Lee Frost (26 March 1874 – 29 January 1963) was an American poet; winner of four Pulitzer Prizes.


"Half of the world is composed of people who have something to say, but can't, and the other half are those who have nothing to say and keep saying it"

"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life — It goes on"

"Home is the place where, when you have to go there,
They have to take you in."

"Everything written is as good as it is dramatic. It need not declare itself in form, but it is drama or nothing."

"A poet never takes notes. You never take notes in a love affair. "

"Her crop was a miscellany
When all was said and done,
A little bit of everything,
A great deal of none."

"I'm not so much
Unlike other folks as your standing there
Apart would make me out. Give me my chance"


"The reason why worry kills more people than work is that more people worry than work."


"Education is...hanging around until you've caught on. "

"A diplomat is a man who always remembers a woman's birthday... but never remembers her age."


WIKIQUOTE




the death of the hired man

tree at my window


the gift outright


The Silken Tent

a mood apart

fear, the

take something like a star

bear, the

05 January 2009

tacere/liniste

Inceputul linistii sta in "alungarea zgomotelor ca a unora ce tulbura adancul. Iar sfarsitul ei sta in a nu se teme de zgomote, ci in a fi nesimtitor la aceasta".
Adevarata liniste consta in "lepadarea gandurilor si renuntarea la grijile indreptatite".
Bunul inainte-mergator al linistii este negrija de toate lucrurile. Ea duce la paza inimii si a mintii, la discernamantul duhovnicesc si la rugaciunea neobosita. Cel ce si-a facut liniste in viata sa duhovniceasca, in mintea si sufletul sau, este "imobil a iubirii", bland, cu anevoie de urnit la cuvant si nemiscat spre manie. El este "chipul pamantesc al ingerului".

ce rpd se intampla lucrurile daca le lasi si nu mai iei in seama barierele mentale sau de alt fel... sau cam tot ce vine greu merita

15 December 2008

azi e zen :D

ca sa nu uit. azi e prima zi cand incep cu un sentiment divin de care aveam nevoie asa de mult..ala cand stii ca stii ceva si afli tare tarziu... si nu stii sa explici, dar este acolo....
interviu ciudatel, dar destul timp de afirmare.nu o sa o dau in bara. m-am echilibrat.
dupa ce mi-am dat si seama [am constientizat foarte clar asa]...mi-am dat seama si ca un lucru nu are cum sa fie dres, oricat d mult as vrea.. dar poate ca asa si trebuie, ca sa ma invat minte. na, o dadui in bara la modul maxim.
iar imi aduc aminte de ghidul recunoasterii sfintilor din viata.

macar m-am adunat naiba. era cazul.
de aici, karma ma insoteste. fuck insecurities and all that shit. no more :)
stiu cum tre sa fie. si gata. am intors-o p toate laturile. ma apuc sa respir


urmeaza un post despre echilibru, inlantuire, tot c ma inconjoara..despre zane, strumfi, etc? vdm. ;)

12 December 2008

m-am razgandit

nu mai vreau nimic..de fapt
am deja cateva carti pe care am zis ca le citesc si le-am lasat on hold. timp am. atata incat ma sperie si mi se pare ca nu mai am deloc :))
daca ma apuc de una, se poate. hai ca ma bag. dar nu de azi.

azi fac marea curatenie.

Friday Night - timp to party and shake all the demons off!
ma duc la concert, tata! :)


p.s.mai am de adaugat multe la postul dinainte. nu azi. dar si cand il termin, o sa am ce citi peste ani, cand ma lasa memoria! :D
intr-o alta seara in care ma voi obosi cu o duzina de tigari. se pare ca tigarile obosesc insomnia. pana gasesc altceva pe gratis care sa o sperie...

lucurile bune vin la tine cand esti pregatit sa le primesti si apreciezi. asta mi s-a zis azi. pai sa ma pregatesc...?

ma duc.

18 November 2008

cica

-supararea este o emotie pura, o energie dinamica ce ajuta la mentinerea sanatatii fizice

-less is better, less is more